Dear Tough Talk,
My good friend Coakie and I have been friends for years. She had a death in the family and I sent her a card, made her food and followed up with offers of help. Then I had a death in my family and she hasn’t said one word, showed any interest in my welfare and didn’t even send a card. I understand that people are different and handle grief and succors in different ways, but I at least expected some type of consideration from her. What do you think? (Friendship Heights, Ohio)
FH,
It’s understandable that you should expect some type of reciprocation from Coakie. However, I would cut her a little slack as it must be awful to have that name. It must be truly embarrassing for her. So in response, I say, Who gives a damn? I’d tell her the next time someone she cares about kicks the bucket, that it will be just the time for parties and celebration. No need for retaliation at this time.
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