Tough Talk,
I have two children. When they were teenagers, their father and I were divorced and a couple years later I remarried. They were never fond of my second husband, and in all fairness, he wasn’t the nicest person on the planet. This man that I loved for more than twenty-three years passed away after a long illness. While he was alive, they never sent him any cards or bought him any gifts which we understood and accepted. However, now that he’s gone, they now send him birthday cards and address him and me in holiday cards, even though he’s been dead for two years now. I’m not sure why they’re doing this, but I think it really creepy. What do you think Tough Talk? (Hyledge, Indiana)
Hyledge,
It does sound strange, but my guess is that they are so delighted and overwhelmed with joy that he is no longer in the picture, they send him cards because they know he is no longer there to respond. You should ask them point blank, “you know so-and-so kicked the bucket, what gives with the birthday cards?” If they laugh in your face, you know I’m right and it’s not creepy at all – just enjoying the moment.
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